We all enjoy repeat performances:
- A good song -- the way it touches your spirit and ignites your soul. The way it makes you want to burst into song, dance, or tears.
- A favorite episode of a TV show or watching a favorite movie over and over, again.
- A solid or classic Broadway play.
- Good sex. Okay, it's not likely to be exactly the same, but it can still be equally enjoyable.
But...an ex? You know...one of those it ended with for a reason: you left them, they left you, someone did something or someone --or something with someone -- they should not have. Or a bunch of other reasons. Either way, it's over...done and done...in the past.
Yet, going back to an ex appears to be popular these days. The current dating climate seems to be making the past look attractive...from a distance. Far too many of those who return to that former flame seem to make a quick u-turn as they quickly discover they've returned to a pile of ashes, as nothing's changed; the issues that were once prevalent remain present...and often times worse. As they say, 'same script, same cast....a revival.'
What's supposed to make it better the second time around? Realize...there's a reason (and usually an awfully good reason) why it failed in the first place. The idea is to learn from the bad experiences and move FORWARD...to something better. Grow and Go! GROW from the knowledge you gain from experiences and GO forward to better things that fit the educated you.
We've given so much weight to three tiny words; mere words comprised of 8 letters, 3 syllables, and 2 spaces within 1 sentence. Words that essentially lack power, yet...they plague us with questions: is it too early to say it? Does it make me seem foolish or desperate? Will the feeling be reciprocated? Or will I be ignored or rejected?
These aren't even the BIG three words: I Love You; but, their smaller cousin.
I firmly believe in expressing myself to someone once I know my feelings are true and organic. I don't say stuff just to hear myself speak or to fill empty space. I keep it real, simple, and straight-to-the point...it's all about the T-R-U-T-H (or as a friend of mine says, "The T"): the T, the whole T, and nothing but the T.
Once you accurately and truthfully express yourself to someone, they are more likely to do the same in return. Don't put off for tomorrow what you can do today; save yourself time and make some progress. Say what needs to be said; the outcome will let you move on -- either with your relationship (reciprocated) or with your life (non-reciprocated); this is really more for the BIG three, but if you've been in a relationship for a while, the small three may also be weighted as heavily. Honest judgment and value is truly needed with this one; judge with caution, as non-reciprocated feelings with the Small three does not mean the Big three aren't reciprocated.
Expressing is communicating. If it's true for you...speak it; let yourself be heard. Open your mouth and do it; you know you can...put your tongue in to it:
I Miss You.
I am curious as to why we generally see the two phrases as being interchangeable and equally weighted when they mean separate things and aren't directly correlated with one another. (Just another example of us wanting our cake and being able to eat it too?) Saying "I miss you" doesn't mean that you love someone; saying "I love you" doesn't mean that you'll miss someone if you don't see or have them around for a period of time. This isn't brain science, we just have to remember to look at the entire picture and express how we truly feel....The T (unsweetened, of course).
