The Summer is winding down; and it has been a scorcher. I hope the heat heat didn't get you caught up in the Summer of Him, as the heat can have its effects. For all of those for whom it applies (ladies and fellas), when I say 'caught up,' I mean at this point you need NOT have become a himaholic (when you are all wrapped up in a guy and your world revolves around him...breakfast, lunch, dinner, social activities, and your weekend getaway) or have become dickmatized. Yes, I said it...and you know what it means. It's when you crave it, always want it, gotta have it, can't get enough of it, and down on your knees begging for it. Extreme! Do I even need to say "that ain' cute"? I hope not, as there is no man and no game...that good.
Don't get it twisted and jumbled, these two words can apply to everyday "relationships," as well; it's not just about the summertime heat and shenanigans. Himaholic and dickmatized go great together; don't you just love it? Breaking it down...it's when you're all caught up on him and you're only getting the goods....and nothing else. No love...no affection...zero compassion; just unearthly, mind-blowing sexual satisfaction. While it's fun and unbelievably enjoyable; it's a major waste of time. Even 'friends with benefits' want more than they realize. Recognize what you're worth and what you have to offer. Get yours and take it to the next level; be all that you can be. #KnowYourWorth Yes, I hash-tagged it...hate on me, now. :-p
Special thanks and shout-outs to song-sirens Kelly Price and Jill Scott for edumacating us on himaholics and dickmatized; respectively.
Yours Truly
- Syieve Locklair
- New York, NY, United States
- I'm your everyday, quintessential, slightly above average [pseudo] celebrity/poet/author/executive and personal assistant /voice actor who's talented, creative, charming, some-what funny individual who is indescribable in words. In short, I'm the person you never thought existed until you know me in your own special way.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Monday, July 25, 2011
Friend Me
Social network overload. I declare it, now: it's going to be the next leading cause of increases in prescriptions...especially for medications related to anxiety treatment.
Friend me. Follow me. Circle me. Link me. Skype me. Buy me.
How about 'just leave me alone' as I can only imagine what people will try to do to me next: ______ me! It's too much! I can't...or don't want to...keep up. Instead of bringing people closer together, it seems as if another social network could lead to the unraveling of society (okay, communication within that society) as we know it. People are already dumbing-down and losing a major sense of decency, acceptability, self-respect, and courteousness.
All of these networks and their associated games are time consuming; I won't mention that most of them compete with each other instead of compliment each other. Companies are deliberately doing this; another sign of greed and wanting to conquer the world solo instead of united. How many of these things do we need??? I mean...really? Friendster (not sure if it's actually still around, but it pretty much started it all); MySpace (does anyone still use it?); Facebook (no commentary necessary); Twitter (bigger and better than people expected; a definite standout from the others); Google+ (just getting started, so we'll see what happens), LinkedIn (going strong, but many still don't utilize it properly), EmpireAvenue (kinda works with the others, but still requires a LOT of time on its own, but the payoff doesn't correspond to the time spent...in my opinion).
When I say time spend and payoff...consider...with all of these networks and the time spent on each; is it worth it? What is the significant and what have you gained: staying in touch with family/friends? Meet new and interesting people (and of those are they of any value/interest to your life? Some have managed to take these sites to the next step and find jobs (other networks besides LinkedIn) and to meet people for dates and hookups. I haven't figured that one out, yet, but I'm sure it requires some serious tactics and some seriously creative social networking game.
Now, while social networks generally allow for you to "friend" someone under certain conditions and circumstances; I generally think it is a good rule of thumb to know someone before you accept/approve/link/follow/circle/etc them. Dangers lurk on the internet and crazy things can and will continue to happen. Safety first!
Back to what I originally said...I guess we'll have to wait and see what's next; but, please note...I can only take so much!
Friend me. Follow me. Circle me. Link me. Skype me. Buy me.
How about 'just leave me alone' as I can only imagine what people will try to do to me next: ______ me! It's too much! I can't...or don't want to...keep up. Instead of bringing people closer together, it seems as if another social network could lead to the unraveling of society (okay, communication within that society) as we know it. People are already dumbing-down and losing a major sense of decency, acceptability, self-respect, and courteousness.
All of these networks and their associated games are time consuming; I won't mention that most of them compete with each other instead of compliment each other. Companies are deliberately doing this; another sign of greed and wanting to conquer the world solo instead of united. How many of these things do we need??? I mean...really? Friendster (not sure if it's actually still around, but it pretty much started it all); MySpace (does anyone still use it?); Facebook (no commentary necessary); Twitter (bigger and better than people expected; a definite standout from the others); Google+ (just getting started, so we'll see what happens), LinkedIn (going strong, but many still don't utilize it properly), EmpireAvenue (kinda works with the others, but still requires a LOT of time on its own, but the payoff doesn't correspond to the time spent...in my opinion).
When I say time spend and payoff...consider...with all of these networks and the time spent on each; is it worth it? What is the significant and what have you gained: staying in touch with family/friends? Meet new and interesting people (and of those are they of any value/interest to your life? Some have managed to take these sites to the next step and find jobs (other networks besides LinkedIn) and to meet people for dates and hookups. I haven't figured that one out, yet, but I'm sure it requires some serious tactics and some seriously creative social networking game.
Now, while social networks generally allow for you to "friend" someone under certain conditions and circumstances; I generally think it is a good rule of thumb to know someone before you accept/approve/link/follow/circle/etc them. Dangers lurk on the internet and crazy things can and will continue to happen. Safety first!
Back to what I originally said...I guess we'll have to wait and see what's next; but, please note...I can only take so much!
Sunday, July 10, 2011
PSA: Reality Check
This came across my Twitter time line...read it, remember it, take a note, share it, and never forget it.
Brace yourself...
"Reality checks never bounce."
And the payout may come with interest. As I always say: keep it real, keep it honest, and keep it moving. Whatever situation you are in, make sure you see and are aware of the actual picture; the entire picture. Know the story! Be in the present!
Be real and you'll always be on point.
Brace yourself...
"Reality checks never bounce."
And the payout may come with interest. As I always say: keep it real, keep it honest, and keep it moving. Whatever situation you are in, make sure you see and are aware of the actual picture; the entire picture. Know the story! Be in the present!
Be real and you'll always be on point.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Before I Say 'I Do'
There's a LOT to be done. And I don't mean...selecting a caterer, planning the menu, finding suitable and elegant favors, arranging the seating chart, not strangling the wedding planner, hiring a florist, or deciding between a venue or a destination. Honey, that's easy...child's play. Even the wedding band is decided (amuse yourselves, check them out here). The hardest work to be done is finding an eligible, compatible, sane, and employed (or at least employable) candidate; you know, that "one" worthy of becoming your partner [and lover] (for life). It's such a daunting task; it's like four people's jobs in one.
Why is it so hard...and what are we going to do? People were 'waiting to exhale' in 1992; by now, I'm sure many have died from asphyxiation, and are all awaiting a rebirth (of the dating scene). Forget a man-cleanse; when it's forced and non voluntary, the dating society needs a rainstorm...a monsoon.
I had a conversation with one of my older cousins recently; we discussed a wide variety of things...but definitely touched on men and dating. She said (more or less) it was bad during her time, but she managed to have a good time. She added that she didn't know what me and my generation are going to do..."there's absolutely nothing; it's terrible." The whole time I was pretty much thinking: "Girl, you're preaching to the choir. Cause I know." Well, there is a WHOLE LOT of crazy out there ! And in many forms; most unimaginable and not worthy of entertaining. Not included in that are those who don't have their lives together, but should have established order years ago. After that, what's left?
Very little, that's what. And from there you still have to do the background check, credit check, blood tests, investigate family medical and mental history, social scene placement, and how the candidate interacts with key family members and friends, and resume reviews and reference checks. Let's not forget The Illusionists; those who look and seem readily available and qualified, until you learn their real story. These are typically those who are: just stepping out of the closet [eye roll], enjoy being single [another eye roll], have no idea what they want (i.e., friends or maybe more) [these you just walk away from; nothing said], recently out of a long-term relationship/marriage, wrapped up in feelings for an ex [these you run away from...QUICKLY], someone you've dated before and it didn't work [blank stare], or your basic quintessential loser.
Now, do you see what I mean when I say there is A LOT to do before the wedding? Just finding the one you want (and can be able to) marry is a bit much. We also have to vet through those who think they are qualified (some even have the audacity to think "overqualified"); perhaps, if we could classify them (or even better if they could classify themselves) in to the following groups; it would make it all A LOT easier, more efficient, productive, and straight to the point.
A lot of the people who fit these categories are irresponsible, immature, play too many games, don't have their lives in order, afraid of commitment, don't have respect for themselves and/or other people, and lack dating knowledge and skill. Meaning, they have no idea as to how to date and get to know someone. That's a lot to put up with; it's exhausting!
As you can see, dating ain' cute or easy. So, before I can say "I do," I need to find someone to say it to. This, is where the real work begins!
Note: A friend and I generated these categories (and a few others not listed); if you fit into any of these categories or can categorize someone within one...it's not a good thing.
Why is it so hard...and what are we going to do? People were 'waiting to exhale' in 1992; by now, I'm sure many have died from asphyxiation, and are all awaiting a rebirth (of the dating scene). Forget a man-cleanse; when it's forced and non voluntary, the dating society needs a rainstorm...a monsoon.
I had a conversation with one of my older cousins recently; we discussed a wide variety of things...but definitely touched on men and dating. She said (more or less) it was bad during her time, but she managed to have a good time. She added that she didn't know what me and my generation are going to do..."there's absolutely nothing; it's terrible." The whole time I was pretty much thinking: "Girl, you're preaching to the choir. Cause I know." Well, there is a WHOLE LOT of crazy out there ! And in many forms; most unimaginable and not worthy of entertaining. Not included in that are those who don't have their lives together, but should have established order years ago. After that, what's left?
Very little, that's what. And from there you still have to do the background check, credit check, blood tests, investigate family medical and mental history, social scene placement, and how the candidate interacts with key family members and friends, and resume reviews and reference checks. Let's not forget The Illusionists; those who look and seem readily available and qualified, until you learn their real story. These are typically those who are: just stepping out of the closet [eye roll], enjoy being single [another eye roll], have no idea what they want (i.e., friends or maybe more) [these you just walk away from; nothing said], recently out of a long-term relationship/marriage, wrapped up in feelings for an ex [these you run away from...QUICKLY], someone you've dated before and it didn't work [blank stare], or your basic quintessential loser.
Now, do you see what I mean when I say there is A LOT to do before the wedding? Just finding the one you want (and can be able to) marry is a bit much. We also have to vet through those who think they are qualified (some even have the audacity to think "overqualified"); perhaps, if we could classify them (or even better if they could classify themselves) in to the following groups; it would make it all A LOT easier, more efficient, productive, and straight to the point.
A lot of the people who fit these categories are irresponsible, immature, play too many games, don't have their lives in order, afraid of commitment, don't have respect for themselves and/or other people, and lack dating knowledge and skill. Meaning, they have no idea as to how to date and get to know someone. That's a lot to put up with; it's exhausting!
As you can see, dating ain' cute or easy. So, before I can say "I do," I need to find someone to say it to. This, is where the real work begins!
Note: A friend and I generated these categories (and a few others not listed); if you fit into any of these categories or can categorize someone within one...it's not a good thing.
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