The Weight of Sexiness

Does my sexiness make me look *phat?

If so, is it like water weight--not as significant as people think--or a credential that puts you ahead of the competition?

Aim to be sexy...plus. Sexiness is only a part of the whole; it will get you in the door, but it won't keep you in the house. If anything, it's the icing on the cake that lets you come and go in the house freely; until you screw up. Sexiness is the pizazz, finesse, and polished touch over a core, solid foundation; such as a friendship, but it can also be the perfect accessory for a cute quirk or common belief. Don't get trapped with those who only see the sexy, and don't invest the time it takes to explore and find your other main core components--the components that make and represent who you truly are and what you have to offer. Your Essence. The person who does this should be someone who believes in you, all you do, and all you have to offer.

If you're after the sexy, don't get caught up on the wrapping; be sure to examine the package. Step up to the sexy plate and know what to do and how to handle it. Begin to explore and search for the components that make up the whole. What stands out as exceptional, rare, and of quality? What compliments the sexy and vice versa? Find what would make you attracted to the person, even if they aren't sexy. Discover someone with the qualities you believe in who is also someone you can believe in.

While many people place an emphasis on looks and sex appeal, it's the combination of many factors that adds, makes the whole, and makes the big difference in determining the keepers and the throw backs.

Sexiness has diminishing powers; in the eyes of another, you can have it one day and not the next. Be sure to discover, develop, and hone other appealing traits, because compared to the factors that matter, sexiness is a light-weight.


*For those of you who still don't know and are too embarrassed or not embarrassed at all to ask,
phat = pretty, hott, and tempting.